Making Sense of an Attraction to a Married Man Having a Secret Love Affair Community Q&A Loving the married man. This is for the women who love their married men and need positive guidance and support to work through their issues. No matter what side of the fence you’re on both can agree that this is a very controversial and moralistically sensitive topic. The touch of a hand, an innocent conversation, a glance?He has not had sex with her for over a year, and she does not want to go back to her country. We doubt he is keeping her as up to date about you, as he “appears” to be keeping you informed about her. If you pursue this romance you are implicitly endorsing a model for behavior in life and love.So there would seem to be a high probability that deceit is in his behavioral repertoire. Take his story at face value and we notice his proclivity to weasle his way around problems — rather than deal with them head on. So be sure you understand the model you are acting out.The existence of your relationship with a married man tells you how little he respects his wife by lying to her instead of being a man and telling her he wants out. Like the Groucho Marx joke, "He may not want to be of a relationship that would have him as a partner." 7. Like it or not, you are a willing participant in a man violating his vows and betraying the trust of his wife -- not to mention grossly disappointing his children and making it difficult for them to see him as a role model. If he is caught by his wife or conscience, don't be surprised if he tries to blame you and get you to take the fall. Because it's convenient and comfortable, a relationship with a married man can go on for a long time -- and before you know it, eat up the precious time you might have had in a healthy relationship with a chance of flourishing.When people who have been involved with married men finally move on, they often regret having wasted the time in a dead-end affair.Translation: When you see that the very first chapter is all about the importance of stroking your man's ego, don't lose your cool just yet.
Give this book a good read from cover-to-cover and you'll find that somewhere among the eight male voices you'll hear is at least one that speaks to where you are and what you believe to be true in your heart. A Lot Of This Is Wife Approved One of the co-authors, Dr.We say throw this one back into the sea, and go on about your life as if there is not really an important opportunity here for anything of lasting value here.If he ever does move beyond the victim role and becomes free and clear — and if you are still available — then perhaps give this a second look.(c) Mark Goulston Blog Author, you take an almost too extreme stand against affairs.I have a very good reason for dating a married man...we're in love. That the wife has not to face questions of her neighbors?