While they still experience love like anyone else, the feelings can be more intense and scary than they are for most people.
These feelings drive increased anxiety, which builds upon itself and snowballs as the relationship progresses — and the expectation of a commitment looms larger.
But when I first met him, he was scared of commitment.
His last few relationships had been bad and he was afraid to open up again in a new one.
Commitment phobia is something I see in my office often and happens to both women and men. This is often not conscious and going on at the deepest level of the sub consciousness.
There are many factors that can cause commitment phobia.
People with a commitment phobia long and want a long-term connection with another person, but their overwhelming anxiety prevents them from staying in any relationship for too long.
If pressed for a commitment, they are far more likely to leave the relationship than to make the commitment.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of guys out there saying they're afraid of commitment just because they don't want to date YOU, but they don't want to make you feel bad.
I've found that the guys who are whining about how they're scared of commitment are the ones who are lying - the ones who actually ARE afraid usually don't say it because they don't even really realize it themselves.